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A few guys have been doing great work covering the Tom Ball self-immolation and Amanda Marcotte’s fucked up response to it. There’s a lot of overlap between my site and theirs, but it won’t hurt to get the exposure out there about this story.
Pro-Male Anti Feminist Tech. Posts here.
Snark. Here and here. Some thought Snark was defending Marcotte by saying that she isn’t evil, but he’s actually laying more blame at her feet. Evil is almost an excuse. Let’s realize that Marcotte isn’t evil but that she is incorrect and unfair in her thinking processes – processes which she derives from radical feminism.
(If I forgot any, I’m sorry, I have to be at work in, like, 5 minutes).
So Marcotte left this comment over at ManBoobz. I’m sure you’ve all seen it or heard of it:
I’ll point out that setting yourself on fire is an extremely effective tool if your goal is to make your ex-wife’s life a living hell, and if your anger at losing control over her overwhelms all other desires. Which is common enough with abusers, who will ruin their own lives and their own shit and turn their children against them in an effort to hurt the woman they’ve fixated on.
Setting yourself on fire is also extremely effective in ending your life and sending a big “Fuck you” to society. She wrote this in response to Tweets I’d sent her:
@GLPiggy I believe in nuance and understanding the complexities! Scary, I know.
what nuance was there in saying that men often kill selves for revenge? do you nuance all suicides?and how about your duke lacrosse nuance? what about nuance in cases of alleged rapes? you aren’t consistent in your nuance.
Marcotte’s original post ignored that Tom Ball didn’t seem especially bitter towards his ex-wife for his adverse outcomes. He was angry at the state and at people who meddled in his relationship with his children – such as social worker Maureen LaFortune who told a court that she wouldn’t recommend visitation or custody for Ball’s two oldest children until he “changed his attitude”. The question becomes, at what point does a person outside of a familial situation have the right to determine when someone’s attitude is not properly attuned? That grants one person way too much power over the lives of too many people. LaFortune, backed by the state, was playing God with the Ball family.
Further, Marcotte calls Ball an abuser who wants to get back at his ex wife by setting himself on fire (where he’ll seemingly laugh his ass off from his grave?). But Ball had no history of abuse with his wife – the two charges against him were that he smacked his daughter in the mouth and drew blood and left a bruise on the back of one daughter’s neck while breaking up a fight between that daughter and another one of his kids. Ball had no history of vindictiveness against his ex, and he didn’t abuse her. So if you want to nuance this shit, you might want to see if the people who do use suicide threats as a way to gain power over an ex also usually use physical abuse against the person they’re trying to gain power over. Surely if this were Ball’s strategy there would have been a history of that type of abuse.
Barring that, perhaps Ball was just a man at the end of his rope. Perhaps he had a legitimate claim and didn’t want to fight. He took extreme measures to deal with that – which is always the case with suicide. The final point I need to make is that liberals and progressives are usually sympathetic to people who kill themselves, but, as with most issues, the sympathy dries up as soon as a white man is the victim.
Marcotte is targeted here because she has a hand in shaping the storyline of so many news events. She writes for widely read publications, and she appears on “proper” and “good” debate platforms like Bloggingheads TV. Marcotte isn’t just some crackpot who nobody listens to. She has influence. As I wrote to PMAFT on his blog, the interest in Marcotte on this case is that if we can yank the thread that is her ridiculous position on the Tom Ball incident, something else may unravel.