The First Commandment of Feminism
As commenter stonerwithaboner points out, Amanda Marcotte popped up in the comments section of a post at Feministe about a woman who was worried that she’d raped her boyfriend. The scenario:
I accidentally raped my boyfriend. What happened was I awoke to find my boyfriend rubbing up against me. After a little while, he pulled my hand, motioning for me to get on top of him to have sex, as he has done many times before. I obliged, and all was well, until he apparently woke up and pushed me off of him. I did not have any indication that he was asleep, since he was an active participant the entire time and was NOT lying there like a dead fish. In the morning, he expressed his displeasure about being woken up with sex. He said that he felt really violated. I apologized and explained my understanding of the situation. Now he says he feels really weird about what happened and he can’t stomach me touching him. What should I do?
Marcotte responded in comments and was taken to task by many other commenters:
It’s…..possible that he was asleep.
The likelier possibility is he was awake the whole time and lying about it in order to screw with her sense of reality. Additionally, he can make her feel both guilty and humiliated, putting him in a Position of power over her.
Gas lighting is the likelier explanation. Yes, it’s a weird, elaborate mind fuck, but hey, it’s not weirder than the guy whose girlfriend wrote to Captain Awkward because he’s controlling and humiliating her by not letting her use their bathroom.
I’m sure we can all spot the double-standard here. Marcotte must always be tied to the national incident which made her famous. She supported the lying filthy skank/stripper/murderer Crystal Mangum against the white Duke lacrosse players accused of raping her.