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I actually agree with most of this article by Hugo Schwyzer. It’s about how attractive women shouldn’t just assume that their less physically attractive boyfriends/husbands won’t cheat on them. It also hits on how attractive women are so often surprised that their men cheat on them with less attractive women. One snippet:
It’s axiomatic that women are raised to believe that beauty has tremendous power. It’s one thing to know intellectually that “looks can’t buy happiness,” but the rewards of beauty seem so profound and so ubiquitous that it’s easy to buy into the idea that beauty is leverage. That leverage is relative, which is why Betsy –- who thinks of herself as a “7″ –- assumed that her attractiveness would be strong enough to at least keep a “4″ faithful. She might have been less certain of her chances with a man who was her aesthetic equal.
It’s amazing how often you hear a given woman’s yea-saying rah-rah gang criticize the woman chosen by the man who cheated on their friend. I assume we’ve all seen this play out in real life, and it commonly occurs in tabloid media. The cheated-on woman is said to be so much more attractive than the mistress, and everyone expresses confusion over the man’s step down the looks ladder. The incidents that I can recall off the top of my head where the general media response to a particular male celebrity’s mistress choice as being “but she’s not even as hot as his wife/girlfriend” are Jude Law/Sienna Miller (Daisy Wright), Arnold Schwarznegger/Maria Shriver (Mildred Baena), Jesse James/Sandra Bullock (Michelle McGee), Hugh Grant/Elizabeth Hurley (Divine Brown) and Tiger Woods/Elin Nordegren (Everyone).
Men sometimes use women’s ego against them. A man might tell his girlfriend/wife “why would I cheat on you with her; you’re much better looking,” and that’s often enough to get the woman to turn her head.