Commenter Georgia Boy writes:
Ever notice most of these articles feature women who have all daughters, not sons? Your average single-woman-raising-kids-from-abusive-husband movie also seems to feature daughters only. Manipulating the background scenery like that is a classic way for the fempire to hide the worst problems. The higher price boys pay gets swept under the rug.
He’s correct, and it has been noted. I wrote early last year in response to another single mom praise piece from Slate:
One other thing I want to point out in all of this: we continue to hear from single moms, feminist men, and women raised by single moms; in other words, we’re getting the female mother and the daughter’s perspective but not that of the son. But boys are the free radicals. Boys are in greater need of guidance, discipline, and the role models. Girls will be catered to, though fathers would be ideal in dealing with certain situations which girls tend to face. So daughters may be relatively well off without a father, but sons need dads. Sons crave fathers. But mothers will win this argument. They have better lawyers and a team of academics ready to deploy on their behalf.
Strawmen and false equivalencies are deployed regularly in defending the single mom set. The author of the Slate piece I took down today compared her privileged situation to that of all single moms, and single women who raise daughters try to conflate raising girls with raising boys as if all of us who operate within the realm of reality don’t know that these are important distinctions.
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Personally I wouldn’t pat myself on the back about “taking down” a feminist screed. They aren’t real people. They’re just a well-funded joke.
personally, i find your opinion worthless.
“But boys are the free radicals. Boys are in greater need of guidance, discipline, and the role models.”
you’re implicitly underestimating how much girls need fathers. sure, they don’t need fathers to keep them in line as much b/c they don’t act out as much, but ever heard of “daddy issues”?
From the header material of the Slate article: Send your essays to [...] and write “single mother” in the subject line. (Please check out our submission guidelines.) We will choose the best ones and run them on the blog. We’d love to hear from single dads and boys raised by single mothers, too.
Looks like they are already seeking out white knights to give them some exceptions to wave around. And there are tons of white knights on Slate. Bet you the sons they feature won’t be from poor families (tying into your point about white urban wealthy feminists who assume resources others don’t have). My college educated brother is divorcing and has his kids (both girls) full time. I have a sister in law who also is divorced and the father, who has no money to pay because he’s uneducated and has a poor work ethic, simply split.
Er, make that half time. My brother and his soon to be ex share.
What about the boy?
What about the boy?
What about the boy?
He saw it all!
You didn’t hear it
You didn’t see it.
You won’t say nothing to no one ever in your life.
You never heard it
Oh how absurd it all seems without any proof.
You didn’t hear it
You didn’t see it
You never heard it not a word of it.
You won’t say nothing to no one
Never tell a soul
What you know is the Truth.
Here’s an interesting question/observation. After the recent Connecticut shooting, I noticed that over half of the victims were girls. Just casual observation, but I’ve also noticed that a typical elementary school playground seems to have far more girls than boys.
Does it seem to anybody else like fewer sons are actually being born in America? It would be interesting to hear to statistics on the birth-ratio during the last decade or so.
The thing to be aware of here is that, in the aggregate, women do not care much about the bottom sixty percent of men. Oh, sure, individual mothers care about their worthless sons, those that are worthless, that is, and care more about their high quality sons.
So, if the media concentrates on the daughters of single women, it most likely indicates their attitude towards those of us males who are not up there in the top 40%.
Of course, those daughters usually end up as tattooed sluts, so not a big civilization-builder there. . .
Eric – It’s late and I’m being lazy about looking it up, but I’m fairly confident that the scales recently tipped in favor of girls. Used to be something like 51%/49% boys to girls and that’s been reversed.
Anecdotally, I have three kids and all three are girls. I have friends that also have all girls, whether two or three offspring.
As others have noted, girls need fathers just as boys. My daughters, though young, crave my approval. I have the potential to steer them away from the carousel. Single mothers, even honest widows, have a much harder time with that.
“Manipulating the background scenery like that is a classic way for the fempire to hide the worst problems. The higher price boys pay gets swept under the rug.”
exactly
i also noticed that comment
the feminist media are experts at framing their “articles” and internet headlines such that the piece is skewed against males even before factual content is read
what is CHOSEN to “be news” is just as important as how the content of what’s chosen is slanted
if you control what’s chosen, you already control information (and thus, collective consciousnesses)
there’s a reason why every couple weeks, a huge international rape/woman-in-danger “story” stays on yahoonews day after day
i dont agree with many commenters — a girl needs a father, but a boy MUST have one, otherwise the primal relationship with God is not mirrored in the family
such male “spiritual orphans” are then easy prey for satan and the state
ray:
“satan”?! Seriously?
Why do the Democrats want to deny one in four women defense against rape?
I agree – boys need their fathers more. While the girls without fathers have plenty of issues, even those with fathers in the house don’t seem to escape them (because the fathers have so often been emasculated and rendered socially impotent by the moms and society at large). No one to steer them away from Jamal and cattiness and into some normal heterosexual relations and a modicum of femininity.
For the boys, however, Dad is far more than a mere counterpoint to Mom. He’s the living embodiment, when they’re young, of all they aspire to be. He’s the standard against which they measure themselves as men. Even at our worst times, I could never truly envision myself leaving my husband, if only because it would have destroyed our sons. They may remember clinging to me as toddlers and preschoolers, but now it’s all about Dad – as it should be.
Sheila: “He’s the living embodiment, when they’re young, of all they aspire to be.”
Which is why feminists and their media lackeys want him marginalized and out of the house. If dad’s the role model, that means they have less power.
When it comes to the media, feminists don’t realize the best thing ever for advertisers is boys without dads. These are the boys that search for identity and try and get it through the useless crap advertisers peddle. The message most dads give is “Don’t waste money” and “be somebody,” which is totally antithetical to advertisers, who depend on boys wasting money and not knowing who the eff they are.
Do you what happens to boys with dads after dinner? They’re made to study. Or practice something. On weekends they mow lawns, have jobs, or study for SATs. If you were producing “15 and Pregnant” or “Jersey Shore,” would you want *this* audience?
This is why you see article after article in the big media about why dads are unnecessary. It makes their advertisers happy — and I would even go so far to say they do this on an unconscious level.
There’s more to it than that, but I’ll leave it there for now.